Our college-age Sunday School class is working through a book called Single Men Are Like Waffles — Single Women Are Like Spaghetti. And we like to talk about everything, especially when dealing with a stressful issue, such as infertility and everything it entails. This is why men like to focus on one task or in conversation with a woman can seem to be stuck in one place. They have been married nearly 30 years and have three children and a daughter-in-law. This book filled with not only facts about the differences between men and women, it also has a lot of humor mixed into it.
When we feel our noodles are all in a jumble, all of our emotions, all of our issues and all of our conversations need to be processed and put into their proper place. Find all the ingredients for creating a fabulous recipe of loving, working, and winning together. Over and over again, the women were made out to be idiots, who had not a thought in their pretty little head. In addition to our men folk compartmentalizing their life and responsibilities into cute little boxes I like to picture them with pretty bows on top , they are also problem solvers by nature. The basic premise was fine. A really simple fun self help book that made me laugh in places describing how the brains of men and women work differently and how we can learn to understand our partner better to improve communication.
This was a good model for me to start thinking about how I might be thinking about my relationship with my wife versus how she might be thinking about her relationship with me and what we can do to validate each others needs in the relationship. They all unite and interweave together. Like I said in the disclaimer section at the bottom of my article, not every husband will react or think in the same manner I have described. This is why men and women conflict and fight so much, because one has a hard time understanding why they other is like a waffle or a spaghetti. But at the same time, I believe we need to just be more mindful of when and how often we do. Express that positive thing in several different ways.
If it were, you might be able to handle it. I read this to understand better the difference between males and females, and I learned a lot - at least from the first chapter and the last chapter. A man who is skilled at making things with his hands will always have a project going. What kind of values does that person have? It was in God's plan to make men and women different from each other from the moment He imagined us. And that is being generous.
Bill and Pam Farrel explain why a man is like a waffle each element of his life is in a separate box , why a woman is like a plate of spaghetti everything in her life touches everything else , and how the differences can work for you. This book is a favorite of mine because it is easy and fun to read, and there are many useful ideas for action that you can apply to your marriage. Do you talk to your kids about sex? Each issue is like an individual noodle that touches every other noodle on the plate. Bill Farrel and his wife, Pam, are the cofounders and codirectors of Masterful Living, an organization that provides practical insights for personal relationships. We have given this book as a wedding gift to many couples. Does this mean you should never talk to them about your struggles? But if he asked he would hear that talk of the school fete reminded her of the need to bake 50 cupcakes to take as promised and that she needs to shop for ingredients. Not every generalization fits every person, but enough will fit to make you smile.
They are a real couple helping real couples. Some fun exercises for couples to try. Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference. But ten years later, and in the throes of infertility and not knowing why my husband acts or responds in the manner that he does when dealing with it, I am more interested now more than ever in this whole waffles and spaghetti concept. We like to think of them this way: Men are like ; women are like. They enter a box, size up the single problem, and formulate a solution.
She is usually good at multi-tasking. Men are happiest in the boxes they feel they can succeed in and spend most of their time in those boxes, avoiding the other boxes. If you were to pick one and follow it closely, you would see that it touches, even connects to another one…and then another…and then another. The rest in between were not very interesting and relevant. It means they have boxes in their heads and at any given time they are dealing only with one box. The car becomes his signature.
It almost felt like the authors were giving excuses for both genders - this is how they think so deal with it. In this innovative and fun approach to the differences between men and women, relationship experts Bill and Pam Farrel provide humorous stories, easy-to-understand examples, and clear directions to help you achieve harmony in your marriage. It is so, so true. What would you like to know about this product? Don't dismiss this book entirely, there are rich nuggets here! They find it natural to multitask. It read something like an awful American sitcom.